I once had a conversation with someone, having a hard time getting along with her manager at work. We’ve all had those challenges, where we seem to constantly butt heads with other people, whether it’s your spouse, kids, manager, or even, clients.

So, I asked her if she knew what she needed to say. She thought for a minute, and said, “I should probably use the ‘Disarming Dissension’ script you teach at Creating A Dynasty.” I said, “Yes, that sounds like a really good idea. And here’s the truth: I know the heart of your manager is FOR you. She WANTS to see you succeed. I also know your manager is probably harder on herself than anybody else. There IS a way to communicate with her to bring harmony. As you get past this difficult spot in working with her, there’s going to be a great relationship that comes out of it. Trust is not developed during easy times. Trust is developed through the hard stuff.“

Do you realize that’s what happens in REAL LIFE?!

I asked, “Tell me why you trust me.” She said, “Because you’ve helped me through some really hard stuff. You loved me through the hard stuff and didn’t judge me for my mistakes, but you shared your OWN mistakes.” “Exactly,” I pointed out.

It is not in the happy, easy times we build trust. We develop trust with other people through bad situations… and the things we DON’T want to confront. As long as we’re confronting issues with the right heart and mind, that forms the foundation upon which good relationships are built.

People have it so backwards today. They think a good relationship means you never have an argument or a disagreement. That couldn’t be further from the truth! The truth is, a good relationship is built when you work through those times. It is built when you weather the earthquake together. When you stick together through hard times, character emerges. You get to see their heart and motives… trust is built through THAT.

So, don’t be like most people, who believe a good relationship is always good, and everything is always perfect and everyone is happy all the time. That’s a bunch of nonsense! That is theme-park Fantasy Land – NOT reality!

If you want good, solid relationships in your life, and you want to be able to trust other people and yourself, you’ve got to get the skills to confront issues, to bring restoration.

A lot of people don’t know how to confront conflicts. That’s why it’s important to learn these powerful conflict resolution skills. It’s important to talk about how to face these hard times and challenges, and how to bring harmony, peace, restoration, and trust into your personal and professional relationships.

Choose to not throw in the towel and give up on the challenging relationships in your life, whether they are work-related or personal. Instead, take steps in the right direction to build trust and bring restoration to those relationships.

In fact, a very wise move for you would be to share this message with a few people today. We all know people who are bumping heads with someone else – you know, the ones who call you and say, “I just don’t know what to do about So-and-So. They’re driving me crazy!” Just email this to them! Or you can even print it out and physically hand it to them. You may even want to post this link on Facebook and Twitter. (Come on, social media is always full of people complaining about other people. This is your chance to spread some GOOD news on social media for a change!)

Have you ever experienced a situation similar to the one shared today? Have you pushed through challenging times in your relationships and built trust along the way? Are you going through that right now? I would love to know! You can leave me your comments on our social media pages.

In great faith,

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