When you’re a mom, burnout is very real (even if you don’t realize it). It’s absolutely brutal.

But is it burnout, or is it martyr syndrome?

I realize you probably don’t think of yourself as a “Martyr Mom.”

But let me ask you a question…do you feel like you have to do everything yourself?

Or that it all falls on your shoulders because no one “wants” to help you?

Or that you don’t want to “burden” your spouse by asking for help?

Let me bust that myth for you right now, friend.

If your spouse isn’t helping, the two of you need to talk about that. After all, you are partners in this thing called life. The same goes with your kids. Your family is your “home team.” In order to win, everyone on your team must play. You can’t be a one-person team and win.

The only way to have a good healthy marriage is honor. What do I mean by that?

• Honor yourself by taking care of yourself.
• Honor your spouse by letting go of the complaining. Have a real conversation with clear expectations.
• Honor your kids by teaching them to be responsible for themselves and become the adults they were meant to be.
• Honor the people who are asking you to do things outside the home by prioritizing and putting them lower on the list. Or saying no. Try that word on for size. “No.” Say no to anything that doesn’t serve the vision of the life you want to lead.

So, are you really a burned out stressed out mom because you have taken on too much, think you can do it all, aren’t taking care of yourself?

The answer lies in making a different decision. Starting today.